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5 tips for self improvement during a divorce

The circumstances that lead up to a divorce are often contentious and troublesome. Once you make the decision to end the marriage, you need to take steps to protect yourself. Your ultimate goal is probably to have a peaceful life that allows you to fulfill the potential you feel you have.

From the time you make the decision until the divorce is finalized, and likely long after, you are going to feel a range of emotions. Working through these is imperative, but there are also other things you can do to improve your life and mental state.

  • Decide how disagreements will be handled. Knowing the plan going into the situation can take the stress off of you since you know what to expect. If you have children with your ex, the methods you use now can extend into the parenting relationship you will have for years to come.
  • Keep things professional. Even if you think that you and your ex can remain friends despite the divorce, you should keep things at a business level for now. Work through the divorce and allow yourself time to heal. If you can be friends with your ex, you can allow the transition from parties in a divorce to friends to happen naturally over time.
  • Set up a plan for the future. If you have children, you need to get the parenting plan set as quickly as possible. Since the kids need to be at the center of this, it might help if you address the plan directly to them.
  • Take charge of your life. You may have been living for your ex during your marriage. If you aren't happy with what you were doing then, now is the perfect time to make changes. You have to do what is best for you and your children if you still have any at home.
  • Build new relationships and rekindle others. You can be selective about whom you keep in your life. Family members who are supportive but who have fallen by the wayside might be the focus of these efforts. You might bid adieu to some friends whom you and your ex shared, but you may find new ones to fill that void.

While you are going through the divorce, make sure that you are considering the options based on how they impact you right now and in the years to come. Your goal is to set yourself up for success as a newly single person.

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